I find it interesting when
people approach us and talk about the fact that we are a couple and we are both doing what we love in NLP and asking us how we make it work.
Well it did not always begin that way. I started my journey with NLP a couple of years before my wife and after each night would go home and want to practice what I had just learned, this certainly totally freaked her out and then she resisted me at every point of my journey.
While I was reading through my NLP notes and read “respect for the others model of the world” I realised that it also applied to my wife and that forcing NLP on her was not respecting “her model of the world” as NLP had now become part of my model. I knew I had to create a vacuum so that she would naturally be interested in what I was doing.
As I began to apply the things I had learnt in my own life, she saw changes in me that lead to her becoming curious and finally an NLP Master Practitioner and Trainer.
In our trainings we frequently get asked, how can I get my partner to have interest in NLP, do I need to leave books around the house, should I talk to them, tell me what do I need to do. Our answer is “do Nothing” that’s right do nothing. Creating a vacuum for our partners is the best method to get them curious about NLP and what we do as practitioners of NLP.
Most of the times it is out of love for our partners, friends and family that we start to fill the air with words regarding how they “need” NLP, without using much tack we get on our NLP high horse not taking into consideration that the other person does not have the same model of the world that we may have. Not leaving a space for them to become inquisitive allowing them to explore NLP for themselves.
Developing a vacuum is about giving your loved ones the choice to decide on whether or not they want to take the journey for themselves, being silent and allowing the changes in your own life as a result of what you have learnt and used in your personal life speaks louder than your words.
Respect your partner’s model of the world and enable them to become interested in NLP on their own accord will see them asking you much sooner.
Well it did not always begin that way. I started my journey with NLP a couple of years before my wife and after each night would go home and want to practice what I had just learned, this certainly totally freaked her out and then she resisted me at every point of my journey.
While I was reading through my NLP notes and read “respect for the others model of the world” I realised that it also applied to my wife and that forcing NLP on her was not respecting “her model of the world” as NLP had now become part of my model. I knew I had to create a vacuum so that she would naturally be interested in what I was doing.
As I began to apply the things I had learnt in my own life, she saw changes in me that lead to her becoming curious and finally an NLP Master Practitioner and Trainer.
In our trainings we frequently get asked, how can I get my partner to have interest in NLP, do I need to leave books around the house, should I talk to them, tell me what do I need to do. Our answer is “do Nothing” that’s right do nothing. Creating a vacuum for our partners is the best method to get them curious about NLP and what we do as practitioners of NLP.
Most of the times it is out of love for our partners, friends and family that we start to fill the air with words regarding how they “need” NLP, without using much tack we get on our NLP high horse not taking into consideration that the other person does not have the same model of the world that we may have. Not leaving a space for them to become inquisitive allowing them to explore NLP for themselves.
Developing a vacuum is about giving your loved ones the choice to decide on whether or not they want to take the journey for themselves, being silent and allowing the changes in your own life as a result of what you have learnt and used in your personal life speaks louder than your words.
Respect your partner’s model of the world and enable them to become interested in NLP on their own accord will see them asking you much sooner.
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